Healing Grief and Loss
A message to my soul 2009
Dear Soul, I thank you for showing me the truth light and love so that I can continue to direct it with your wisdom to touch people’s lives, to empower, grow and nurture true wisdom with love and inner beauty.
To continue my own spiritual growth, I will use with great discernment the tools that I have acquired from great teachers past present and future. I will continue to follow my souls desire to apply this wisdom and teachings to lift the souls of others that are willing to grow.
January 6th, 2022
The time is right to share my insights with you around loss and what I have learnt during this past year about healing that loss. As time passes and life happens, I have become so incredibly grateful for the spiritual work I have done over the years. Around 2009 (going by how young I look in the photo) I attended a weekend workshop with Dr Demartini called the Breakthrough Experience. At the time although I could see the value in his processing methodology, I found it exceptionally long winded compared to how quickly ’Life Alignment healing processing works with both the body and the mind’ but of course one leaves a workshop of this nature with GEMS that become tools immersed in the sub-conscious for mental processing later in life.
Based on Dr Demartinis spiritual teachings he states that there is perfect balance and order in life. To prove his point, he teaches a break-through process by doing an exercise whereby you create two lists which have to end up being equal on both sides. The column on the left is the easy part as the mind is so focused on the issue at hand of all the things, you are not happy about in a chosen situation. (I chose to work with Father issues at the time) My list was full of the things I didn’t like about my father. The tricky part was on the opposite column I had to find all the positive qualities and people that filled the gaps in my life where my father had failed. (My perception) I must admit at the time I felt irritated as I could not complete the right-hand column more than 1/third. I was indeed stuck!
Let us consider Grief and loss bearing in mind loss which can be attributed to anything not just death. Such as losing your business, job, home.
Demartini states, ‘’ Emotions will keep coming up until you have a different relationship with them, so you need to understand them and see them for what they are.” He says, our emotions are an illusion, not a truth. Emotions run you (controls you) until you love them by seeing them for what they are.
Demartini’s method encourages us to look at the opposites in everything, in other words life is in perfect balance with its opposites. “Loss creates a space for something new, it’s an opportunity for transformation.” How do you perceive your Loss? If you were to create your own list Left side Loss, right side gain what would it look like?
Demartini advocates the following: there is more good than bad, more benefits than drawbacks, more positive than negative. We can so easily set ourselves up for long term grief when we perceive only one side of the coin, the loss.? When someone you love is alive, lets be honest there is always something about them that you dislike such as a bad habit that irritates you. When a loved one dies, we tend to only remember the good.
Demartini says that grief can be transformed by being specific about the things we miss about our loved one. For example, in your left column list the things you miss about your loved one such as hugs and cuddles, their sense of humour, generosity, kindness, or laughter for example. In the righthand column write down all traits of your loved one and what the drawbacks were. There is no need to cover up the drawbacks as this is not a true reflection who they really were.
Now write down all the benefits of the new people in your life taking on that positive trait and providing you with what you miss, they could be family, friends work colleagues, keep playing with the old and the new. You will be amazed how the benefits turn your grief into gratitude.
I am so grateful for all the people in my life that have in one way, or another contributed to my healing journey. You know who you are! I hold you all with such an expanded heart that was once broken but now feels healed. I have learnt unconditional love and the importance of every situation as being a gift.
If you were to pass right now, would you want your loved ones to grieve for the next 10 years or would you want them to be thankful and get on with their life?
If you or someone you know needs help or support in setting themselves free from either old or new loss I recommend being facilitated to move through a process of learning and transformation.
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